As a homeschool mom, self care is very important. You dedicate your time to taking care of everyone else make sure you take time to take care of you!
The baby will not stop crying,your toddler is fighting with the preschooler, your second-grader refuses to work on anything without you, the fourth-grader asked permission to go to the bathroom an hour ago, you’re late getting your sixth-grader to dance class, and your husband wants to know what’s for dinner. These are the days we just want to go back to bed, the days we lash out in anger or dissolve into tears or wonder why we ever thought homeschooling was a good idea. Every homeschool mom has times when she is weary of it all, even with an only child.
By the grace of God, these days usually pass. But make these mistakes and a bad day can become serious burnout, threatening the future of your homeschool. Avoid them and you can be happily homeschooling again much sooner.
The number-one reason we moms become overwhelmed is because we’ve become self-sufficient Christians. We weren’t designed to do all things in our own strength but rather in His strength. Even with babies, late nights, and busyness, we must treat time in prayer and the Word like it’s as vital as eating. It absolutely is!
We are called to be our husband’s help meets, but our husbands are also called to care for us. How often my husband has rightly pointed out that I’m doing too many of the wrong things—like making a meal for a new mom when I had just had a baby myself! Pray that God would speak through your husband to encourage and guide you.
One of the blessings of homeschooling is a flexible schedule. That blessing can become a curse, however, when we don’t sleep at roughly the same time each day. Immune suppression, irritability, and poor functioning result, even with the same amount of sleep. Use an alarm to remind yourself to go to bed on time.
Another blessing of homeschooling is the variety of opportunities for our families to participate in. Again, this blessing can become a serious source of stress one activity to another. If we don’t cut back and focus on homeschooling, illness will make the choice for us.
If you’re new to homeschooling or perfectionistic, you may have expectations of your homeschool that no one could meet. If you show your ideal schedule to a happy veteran homeschooler and she laughs, you’ll know you need to get real. Assume every lesson will take twice as long as you think, and you’ll end up with the margin you need.
Doing too much is a common source of weariness, but the answer isn’t to give up your routine altogether. Without structure, your house and schooling will quickly plunge into chaos. Keep your basic routine intact and adopt a more relaxed attitude so that you and your children feel less pressure.
Whether it’s because you’re too particular about the house or because you think it’s too much bother, failing to expect children to do chores is a fast track to burnout.This is a subject that must be parent directed. A great resource for training is Managers of Their Chores.
When we’re weary, it’s easy to let the kids get away with not doing their work or other bad behavior. Failing to discipline will only give us more grief long-term.Planning consequences for certain infractions in advance can help. Try the If-Then Chart from Doorposts.
My friends who have their children in parochial schools help and support one another. How much more does a homeschooling mother need encouragement? Be sure to include in your weekly schedule time that allows you to talk with moms you can relate to.
When we’re tired, the last thing we feel like doing is exercising. Yet, it’s the key to having the energy we need to accomplish all we have to do. Exercise combined with proper nutrition reduces the risk of illness and most chronic diseases. Can you really afford not to exercise? You can benefit from as little as 15 minutes a day of vigorous activity.
Fatigue can trick us into thinking we’re hungry, when actually those unneeded calories will only make us feel even more sluggish. Chronic use of caffeine and sleeping pills only masks symptoms and negatively impacts health in the long run. If you avoid making mistakes 1–10, you will find you no longer need your food or drug of choice.
Over-commitment can prompt us to demand even more of ourselves in service to our families and others. The truth is that we will accomplish more if we take some time to pursue a hobby we love. Choose an activity for which your efforts will be praised—and have fun!
While a little time for Mom is a good thing, unlimited time is not. Our hobbies and social activities can begin to spillover into time that should be reserved for school and our husbands. Set a timer and ask a Godly friend to hold you accountable for wise use of your free time.
When you don’t have a plan for schooling,meals, or outside responsibilities,you’re going to be stressed and others will be too. Schedule time to plan the upcoming week and each evening, review your agenda for the next day.
We can punish our children and ourselves for not being disciplined by removing the optional, enjoyable activities in our homeschools. This is a mistake!Don’t try to make up for months of lack-luster schooling in a week. Maintain a reasonable pace, including time for what you all love, and you’ll be back on track more quickly.
God alone can provide the help we each need, but He chooses to give us the gift of participating in the helping. I enjoyed counseling others as a Christian psychologist, but I really love it when fellow homeschool moms ask me for help. Be honest with someone you trust about where you’re struggling, and ask for prayer and counsel.
“Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28).
Dr. Melanie Wilson is a Christian psychologist and mother of six who happily left her career thirteen years ago to heed God’s call to homeschool. She is the author of So You’re Not Wonder Woman?and has written a free meal-planning survival guide for weary moms available at her blog, Psychowith6.
Copyright 2013, used with permission. All rights reserved by author. Originally appeared in the February 2013 issue of The Old Schoolhouse® Magazine, the family education magazine. Read the magazine free at www.TOSMagazine.com or read it on the go and download the free apps at www.TOSApps.com to read the magazine on your mobile devices.
In line with the celebration of Mother’s Day on 8th May, let’s pay tribute to all the wonderful moms out there who sacrifice a lot for their kids so that they can become better individuals. Let’s meet these famous personalities who were homeschooled by their moms.
Thomas Edison was home-schooled at the age of 12 after his mom took him out of school after a teacher insinuated that he was slow.
Former U.S. Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice was home-schooled in first grade by her mother, Angelina Rice, because she was too young to start regular classes and she knew that her daughter is special.
Theodore Roosevelt was homeschooled amid frequent sickness before going to Harvard and becoming the 26th U.S. president.
Pulitzer Prize-winning novelist Pearl S. Buck was homeschooled at the age of 6 by her mother.
Tim Tebow led the Gators to national championships in 2007 and 2009. He was homeschooled, together with his siblings. He’s a former All-American and Heisman Trophy winner at the University of Florida.
After a long and hectic day for moms, there’s nothing more soothing than a long soak in the bathtub. Give your mother or a mommy friend the gift of love with these 10 Homemade Bath Salts for Mother’s Day.
Create your own easy and inexpensive frugal fall pillow, perfect for adding some warmth to your space! You can make your own frugal fall pillow with just a few common crafting supplies, and the end result is a custom made pillow that is so charming and fun for the fall season. Take a look below at how to get started. Making your own frugal fall pillow is so easy and inexpensive!
1 brown placemat ($1 at the Dollar Store)
Thin craft ribbon in color of your choice
Silk fall leaves
Scrap fabric, cotton, or cotton batting
Hot glue, glue gun
1. Lay your placemat flat and smooth out the wrinkles. Now fold your placemat in half. Apply a generous length of glue along two of the edges of the placemat only. Give the glue a good 10 minutes to dry, pressing on the seams as you do.
2. Along the edge of the placemat that you have left open, start stuffing in your scrap fabric or cotton batting. Make sure you push the batting into the corners well.
3. You can stop stuffing once the pillow is full and evenly stuffed. Take your hot glue and secure the last open end.
4. Fluff the pillow one last time and prepare to embellish. Begin by wrapping a length of the burlap around the pillow. Cut it to fit and secure with glue.
5. Continue to layer by adding a length of thinner ribbon directly over the burlap. Cut it to fit and either tie in a bow or secure with glue as well.
6. Layer some fall leaves or fall foliage over the ribbon. Do this by applying a few dabs of glue to the leaves and pressing firmly to the pillow.
Your frugal fall pillow is now ready to be enjoyed!